Reader Question – How Do I Not Get Serious After Separation? (About)
Chris asks: I am newly separated after a 19 year marriage, and have started
going out with a gal whom I have a great time with. She is funny, bright,
outgoing, the works. My dilemma is that I don’t want to get serious with this
girl. I don’t have any feelings for her but I think she is the sweetest person
around. How do I draw the line about spending too much time with her because
I’m not ready to get serious?
My answer: Dating after separation or divorce is hard, even harder than dating
after divorce in my opinion. Why? Because when you’re still separated you’re
still working through your marriage; difficult to do even under the best of
circumstances. I advise most folks in your situation to take a serious review
of their reasons for dating, and whether or not they are ready to date again.
But my point is somewhat moot as you’ve already started dating. Dating a woman
who, in your own words, is fantastic but not for you. So then why are you
dating her? Why not just be friends?
My guess is that your dating relationship with this …
